My 6 tips of strengthening my relationship with GodĀ 

1. Watching sermons online -I have a couple of channels I follow on YouTube of my favorite pastors ,and I make sure I watch their sermons at least twice a week.this helps me hear the word even if I I’m not physically going to church .my favorite would be Tudor Bismarck…his word is šŸ‘ŒšŸ¼šŸ‘ŒšŸ¼. I can listen to him literally the whole day ,because his word speaks to me and draws me close to God. His preaching is less testimonial but more of teachings of the word.u have a better understanding after listening to his sermons …
2. Listening to uplifting Christian music- wen I gave my life to the Lord Jesus Christ ,one of the first things I changed was the type of music I was going to listen to .it was so difficult deleting at least 27g of my music ,to pave way to Christian music .i realized I needed to sacrifice something in order to keep my spirit uplifted with the word even through music .i have a whole lot of Christian music I have on my phone and iPad….buuuuut there is always a favorite……William Murphy ……his music is rnb and something I can relate to from the previous music I used to listen to 

3. Get connected to a church – you find people u can fellowship with .creating a bible study in your area will also be ideal with the people from your church .and through church ,u can be involved in so many outreach programs of spreading the word ,in schools ,clinics ,hospitals etc and this helps u strengthen your relationship with God as u help in spreading His word .

4. Create a bible study – I’ve been to a couple of bible studies whilst I was in college,but it wasn’t a regular thing and I never had the chance to chair one myself,infact I was a passive participant in all the Bible studies I’ve ever been to in my life .mainly because I would attend coz I was invited never that I’ve been to a bible study on my own will ,I know how they can be so helpful in strengthening my relationship with God .you are constantly feeding your spirit with the word through sharing and discussing with others .i would highly recommend creating a bible study with friends or family ,once u are in the groove ,u wouldn’t want to miss out on bible studies ever .

5. Daily devotional plans- because we get so caught up during the day with our lives and work at times you miss out on Wednesday midweek services or even Sunday I have downloaded a couple of daily devotional plans,that give you a daily message and verse that u can read each morning .i know that as my alarm rings in the morning ,I do my morning prayers,read my bible and my devotional message .this way I know my day is safe guarded by the word I read in the morning and I make the most of it in the morning . 

6. Finding some Christian books on subjects that interest you – in a way you get to read some interesting topics relating to Christianity…you can also learn about so much ,f at the moment I’m reading GrowingTogether As A Couple “10Biblical Essentials For Building A Great Marriage “-(Brian & Cherly Brodersen). I have learnt a lot from reading this book ,including how to grow a Godly marriage ,with different types of essentials 1; ENTRUST 2; ELIMINATE 3;ESTEEM 4;ENCOURAGE . 


Trust God During The ProcessĀ 

I think as Christians it’s so easy to trust God after the process,that is after we make it through the trials and tribulations ,wen we get the results that we wanted.and it’s so much hard to trust him during the process in the middle of the tough times.many a times your faith is tested and wen it is being tested ,it’s tough on you if you are spiritually weak .this leads  to my next point, that it’s very easy to have faith whilst things are going on so well ,than wen nothing is moving for u .its easy to look up to God and praise him for what u have ,than it is easy to praise him wen u have nothing and struggling .Personally I’m still learning how to keep my faith steadfast,and trust God in my most dark times .i think it is a test on how much do I trust God with my life ,with what’s occurring in my life ,with where I am going the Bible says in Proverbs 3:5-6 ā€œTrust in Jehovah with all thy heart, And lean not upon thine own understanding:ā€œIn all thy ways acknowledge him, And he will direct thy paths.ā€

Yet wen things are going wrong ,and everything is in chaos it’s so hard not to lean on your own understanding,to trust that which you are seeing.I know what the scripture says ,it’s literally engraved in my heart ,but wen those tribulations come it seems like my own understanding overpowers the word of God .im still learning on how to trust in God with all my heart.I’m still struggling in that area .

ā€­ā€­As I blog about this my process hasn’t ended ,I’m still learning on how to trust God during this difficult process I’m enduring.i haven’t been in the best place in such a long time ,I’m still going through a lot and I’m trying not be a victim of leaning on my own understanding. Pushing and persevering during a process is hard,I would like to believe that God has a different script for each one of us ,and He knows how and wen to unveil it to us ,and as He does ,your process will be uncovered.looking back over my shoulders ,I can see that my FAITH IN GOD has pushed me during a certain phase or process in my life .



It’s been almost a year since my last blog post and I just figured why not begin with one of my favorite topics ,being that of friends.So growing up I was quite the chatty little birdy and had so many friends ,home friends ,crĆØche friends ,high school friends ,church friends etc ..Then I grew up and became a bit reserved ,my circle was a bit limited to the number of my fingers in one hand.I don’t really know how i just grew out of it ,friends didn’t just mean that much to me anymore.I just ended up secluding myself from a lot of activities that required a bunch of people to meet up and all .Some of these things u can never explain hey it just happens and well it happened to me .

Childhood friends

I don’t really know if it was me alone ,but my childhood friends were pretty much my cousins,my parents friend’s kids and ofcoz my preschool and primary friends.As for my cousins ,they were the ones who knew just about anything of my life and there was no pretence there whatsoever .They knew everything about me and there was no lying about toys your mom supposedly got you coz they at times lived with us .I would cry if mom ddnt allow me to sleep over at their place or vice versa .We learnt our first hip hop songs together ,knew each other’s secrets “our crush” ,had the same favorite tv show and God forbid had that one movie we knew from start to end “for us it was Saraffina ” . I mean ,cousins were my ultimate IT friends,we were THE SQUAD!!

My preschool friends mmmmm didn’t have so much impact in my life ,there were just there and to be quite frank they just remained as preschool buddies.However, my primary school friends…now those ones are for life .Most of my current friends right now ,are from my primary level of education .Puberty hit us in primary and that for me ,made our friendship a lot special .For instant I had my first period when I was in Grade 7 and all my friends were there for me sharing the confusion ,excitement and joy of entering an unworld phase of every girls life with me . I mean, that was so sacred to  and for me.Primary friends had this special bond ,that still exists even now for me .We parted our ways for our high school but still made time for each other coz mybe primary was just too lit”who knows ” .Some have families now ,others all over the world ,others passed on but still have a special place in our hearts .And guess what ,I even got the love of my life from primary .

College friends 

OH MY GOD …..can I just alt-ctrl-del these people from my life …#LOL#.I can’t even comprehend the amount of craziness these bunch of friends can be in ones life ,it’s so hectic tbh.These kinds of friends can make or break you as an individual if you not careful at all .For most of us,they just remain as college friends ,come to think of it I only have 3 people I talk to from college.Even among these college friends ,they were subdivisions too ….party friends ,church friends ,assignment friends ,just friends and a must friend. These people could never mix at all ,I mean clearly how can my just friend I meet up at functions for drinks ,be my assignment friend …what are the odds that I even share a same module with them …If you ask me ,there’s nothing much I can say about college friends so I’ll pretty much leave it here .

Work friends  

These are the kind of friends you just meet at work and it all stays there ,it’s an 8-5pm sort of an affair .In most cases no one bothers to really be involved outside the work place ,and if you do the relationship doesn’t last at all .Although some end up being buddies for life ,it starts with that office party that will extend to a night out for a few drinks that will eventually lead to a Friday night girls/guys night out together. 

Friends for life 

These are heaven sent ,friends you can go for weeks or months without talking to but still can catch up and be cool together.Such friends don’t need to be asked for help ,they know when to help.Lets all agree that ,such friends are more family than just friends .At most important events of your life they are there ,and you need to ask ,if they know ,they will show up and be there for you .For me , these friends are worth more than a lot of fake buddies .These are the people who are brutally honest with you,not in the name of being mean but pour out every inch of constructive criticism that will build not destroy your esteem.

                      …. WAM 2017….

What do couples fight aboutĀ 

So my  close friends call me a “bully ” and others think I’m very much opinionated and don’t back down . Buttttt….what I’ve come to discover is that ,I ain’t a bully at all ,I just defend myself a bit more than everyone around me do for themselves …so it’s quite easy for the next person to label you a certain way because of their own disparities .This bully labeling  issue has become a major issue in my relationship and of late has caused a whole of problem.then again that’s a whole different issue for another day .as of today would really love to dig in a bit deeper on the issues that most couples fight about .ever heard people lash out statements like “if you don’t fight as a couple you are pretty much not dating ‘mmmmmm but let’s be frank here , we do accept some level of disagreements that can lead to fighting but when it becomes a norm that you fight everyday ,it ain’t love no more ,it’s you not being compatible for each other at all.

1:Ex spouses and boyfriends/girlfriends 

In as much as people have moved on and are with their current partners , cases of the exes seem to pop out a lot .it comes to things that you love so much that would be interpreted as reminders of your ex partner .some people have withdrawal problems, they can’t seem to let go of their past no matter how shady and broken that past is .you check their social media,u find that they are still communicating with their past …they still interact with their pasts family ..I would find this quite a disturbing issue in your new relationship if u can’t seem to let go of your past .


I have always told myself that money will not be an obstacle to a happy relationship in my life .its not like we get what we wish for all the time right ?its just inevitable that couples fight over finances .how you going to spend it ,on who ,on what ……having a lot of money can cause problems and not having any can be an issue too ….all u need to do is master the art of communication wen it comes to money .be open about finances ,how they are being acquired and how they will be spent .come up with a budget in order  to save , agree on that budget and make use of it.i believe it always work if both parties agree .wen you are single,you sort of have financial independence ,I spend my money however I want to but that’s not always the case when you are in a relationship need to respect the other persons views regarding your financial use…

                                                               ………to be continued 

Where do we go from hereĀ 

It was inOctober 2014, wen things fell apart for this young lady .having finished college the same year ,job hunting was sort of a daily bread mission for her .For months her daily schedule was very predictable ,waking up doing her house chores ,taking that long shower ,breakfast then into town to that same Internet cafe to search for job vacancies on the Internet .This was all done by someone who had hope for a brighter future for herself little did she know the world she was in was full of greedy people . No one cared about experience neither did they care about qualifications it was just about how much you are willing to part with to get a job …..
To be continued ….

Life decisions made for youĀ 

Growing up in a typical black family ,it’s inevitable that decisions are made for you without you . Starting from a young age , we have clothes picked up for us for occasions because they say “you don’t know that which is appropriate to wear “,but are we ever given the chance to choose that which we want . Then it rises to what we eat, I know growing up I ddnt like eating that much , but one thing I knew I loved were butternuts ,but the decision was made for me to be accustomed to eat just about everything .šŸ˜”.it starts with those small tiny things ,and eventually gets to life decisions being decided for us .One disturbing factor we see our parents deciding our career pathway.i had the privilege to chose that which I desired to do but well my siblings were not so fortunate enough to have that too .its quite common in my African culture to be a doctor yet you desire to be a fashion designer or photographer . Going through medical school would take you approximately 7 years ,7 years of studying a degree to please your parents because you the not financially emancipated to take yourself through school .its a sad reality but many are living to give testimonies of such .   

The prayerful partner pt3Ā 

  • My past relationships were filled with all sorts of excitement , some I can’t even comprehend as to whether I was thinkn clearly to involve myself with such . I have always told myself , I will raise my kids better than I was , not saying my parents did a terrible job , they did their best I was just adamant to follow . My mom took me and my siblings to church but just like any other kid, church is a place to go play and as a youth to create relationships …never to serve the soul purpose of hearing the word of God , understanding it and doing according to the word . As an adult , I now understand the whole concept of church …..tbh my partner helped me understand a lot . For instant One thing I knew existed was tithe but it was just “a thing” of the many things I never understood what it meant . I’m grateful that God chose “my person “for me …

A prayerful partner Pt2…

My relationship with God changed, from 5 minutes needy prayers to a father and daughter long prayers.In midst of it all ..He brought a friend , a comforter , a giver , a humble soul into my life . Most of all He brought a PRAYERFUL PARTNER .Life changed for me in a blink of an eye..impossible situations were shaken for I had a prayerful partner , who not only lifted my spirit up but he prayed and still prays for us 

The prayerful partnerĀ 

It’s not easy to find that one person who completes you , that one person who makes you feel at ease in distressful times, who puts an electric smile on your face when everything is on a standstill . For me, it took time to find such a person . I would come across those ” I can make you happy ” type of men but act immature and witty when I needed them the most . After kissing a few frogs you just can’t help but start questioning yourself .Maybe this misfortunes of colliding with such has nothing to do with them but me . Which brings me to my relationship with God . I prayed yes,everyone does pray right ???! But I prayed when a need arises .not everyday , but whenever a need arises . Then I changed myself ….