The painted African woman

The most beautiful women in the world are like good coffee….black as hell,strong as hope and sweet as love .#AfricanProverb

Is this how the typical African woman is around you, black as hell …wen majority of our beautiful chocolate coated sisters are made to believe being of a lighter skin tone is beautiful.Are we really strong as hope ,yet we stand behind the men who abuse us and our children in the name of love and cultural beliefs..What hope do I bring to the face of my scared and bruised daughter who is exposed to sexual and physical abuse from the one I lay with in bed at night .Chakafukidza Dzimba Matenga,is what adults would tell you after seeking guidance from them .In the name of love ,I give a blind eye to my child and please the perpetrator who so happens to be my husband.
I used to think the typical painted African woman doesn’t exist , till I paid a visit at my grandmother’s homestead in the rural areas. Traditional responsibilities are the only norms these rural women know .Your duty as a wife is to look after the homestead ,fetch firewood ,herd the cattle ,take care of the children ,the elders within your family and feed the family .Only the man can leave the rural areas in search of jobs in the towns. You do not visit, because women are taught to trust their men ,he will come when he can .

It’s not surprising that ,in such a home the girl child will not see the light of education .Having a mother who is under such patriarchal rule ,she can never fight for her girl child to be empowered with textbook education.It doesn’t make it any easy if the family is poor ,so many reasons will be pointed out as to why she doesn’t deserve to go to school .what becomes of that girl child in the end ??the deprivation cycle of poverty will lead the girl child to only looking forward to be married ,to have a husband take care of her .

Incase of infidelity by your husband,u need not disown your husband by leaving him, u have to suck it up and accommodate his behavior.not only does it demean you as a woman ,but it puts you at risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases,all in the name of being the typical African woman.Im saddened at how some women are put through hell because they are just women and have to endure it all .

There is a certain young girl ,deep in the rural areas ,who has never read anything in her whole life .she lives so far from civilization that ,the only thing close to civilization she knows is the 10km away clinic from her homestead.a clinic that she rarely visits because ,her family religion only recognizes traditional medicines for all healthcare casualties. she only knows how to pronounce her name ,but writing it is a myth.her life goals and hopes constitute finding a well groomed husband to marry her .she wishes to have 5children ,preferably boys in order to gain respect from her husband and inlaws . as soon as she reaches her puberty age ,the woman elders of the village gather them up and provide them with on how to be a submissive wife to your husband ,an education on how to take care of your own family ,an education on how to stay faithful to your husband,an education on how to please your husband in bed …isn’t this just sad .what about what I want in my life ,what about my one dreams and ambitions for my life .


International Women’s Day 2017 #BeBoldForChange

Such a strong theme for this year , BeBoldForChange ,how many of us are bold enough to even change small aspects in our lives ,change of job,appearance ,new environment etc …let’s look at the term #BOLD …. To be bold is when one is not hesitant or fearful in the face of an actual or possible danger, in fact to be courageous and daring .This is what the world is trying to put across to women ,for us to be #BoldForChange ….we know what sort of change we aspire for our kids, families communities, regions ,countries and continents.we know what obstacles are hindering those changes to be enforced ,and why they never reach the level of change ,and yet what are we doing about it ….are we bold enough to make these changes occur nomatter what circumstances.History has a lot of phenomenal women who stood up for their rights ,who were bold enough for change to happen for them and the future generations.Today’s blog will be dedicated to women in my African culture who were and still are BoldForChange ..

1. Funmilayo Ransome Kuti – Woman Activist

  •  Nigerian  
  •  Founder and creatior of The Abeokuta women’s union (AWU) and later Women’s International Democratic Federation (WIDF), organisations and movements that aided Kuti to promote women’s rights to education, employment and to political participation.  
  •  Kuti and the AWU clan went to protest using the slogan no taxation without representation ,against tax imposed on women . They were not equal members of society and were strongly opposed to paying taxes until the injustices were rectified. As the women protested outside the Alake’s house, they sang in Yoruba.

2. Yaa Asantewa – The Commander in Chief

  •  Ghanaian  
  •  She was the military leader of what is known as the ‘Yaa Asantewa War’, which was the last war between the Asante and the British, and during which she became referred to by the British as the ‘Joan D’Arc of Africa’. Although she did not enter combat herself, the troops fought in her name and she gave orders and provided the troops with gun powder. 

3. Winnie Mandela – The President’s Wife

  •  South African  
  •  a South African activist and politician who has held several government positions and headed the African National Congress Women’s League. She is a member of the ANC’s National Executive Committee. 

4. Miriam Makeba – The Mother of Africa

  •  South African  
  •  Another prominently outspoken and visible opponent of South Africa’s apartheid regime was Miriam Makeba, also known as Mama Africa, and the Empress of African song. Makeba was not only involved in radical activity against apartheid but also in the civil rights movement and then black power. In fact, she was married (albeit briefly) to the Black Panther leader Stokely Carmichael, who was her fourth husband out of five. 

5. Ruth Williams, Lady Khama – The Motswanan

  •  Lady Khama was the wife of Botswana’s first president, Sir Seretse Khama. She was born in Blackheath in south-east London and was the daughter of a retired Indian Army officer. Her marriage to the man who would become Botswana’s president was met with disapproval in Botswana, it enraged apartheid South Africa, and embarrassed the British government.  
  •  Lady Khama was an influential, politically active first lady during her husband’s tenure as president. When Seretse Khama died in 1980, many expected that Ruth Khama would return to London. But instead she became president of the country’s Red Cross.  

6. Ama Ata Aidoo – Writer

  •  Ghanaian  
  •  Professor Ama Ata Aidoo, née Christina Ama Aidoo, is a author, poet, playwright, and academic.  
  • Served as a Minister of Education in Ghana under the Jerry Rawlings administration. She currently lives in Ghana.  
  •  In 2000, she established the Mbaasem Foundation to promote and support the work of African women writers.  

7. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie – Writer, feminist

  •  Nigerian  
  •  Born in Nigeria in 1977.  
  •  Author of three critically acclaimed novels: Purple Hibiscus (2003), Half of a Yellow Sun (2006), and Americanah (2013). She also released a short story collection, The Thing around Your Neck in 2009. 
  •  Chimamanda is a feminist and has written and given speeches on various current topics relating to women’s issues in Nigeria and across the Diaspora, including her celebrated TED talks.