My 6 tips of strengthening my relationship with God 

1. Watching sermons online -I have a couple of channels I follow on YouTube of my favorite pastors ,and I make sure I watch their sermons at least twice a week.this helps me hear the word even if I I’m not physically going to church .my favorite would be Tudor Bismarck…his word is 👌🏼👌🏼. I can listen to him literally the whole day ,because his word speaks to me and draws me close to God. His preaching is less testimonial but more of teachings of the word.u have a better understanding after listening to his sermons …
2. Listening to uplifting Christian music- wen I gave my life to the Lord Jesus Christ ,one of the first things I changed was the type of music I was going to listen to .it was so difficult deleting at least 27g of my music ,to pave way to Christian music .i realized I needed to sacrifice something in order to keep my spirit uplifted with the word even through music .i have a whole lot of Christian music I have on my phone and iPad….buuuuut there is always a favorite……William Murphy ……his music is rnb and something I can relate to from the previous music I used to listen to 

3. Get connected to a church – you find people u can fellowship with .creating a bible study in your area will also be ideal with the people from your church .and through church ,u can be involved in so many outreach programs of spreading the word ,in schools ,clinics ,hospitals etc and this helps u strengthen your relationship with God as u help in spreading His word .

4. Create a bible study – I’ve been to a couple of bible studies whilst I was in college,but it wasn’t a regular thing and I never had the chance to chair one myself,infact I was a passive participant in all the Bible studies I’ve ever been to in my life .mainly because I would attend coz I was invited never that I’ve been to a bible study on my own will ,I know how they can be so helpful in strengthening my relationship with God .you are constantly feeding your spirit with the word through sharing and discussing with others .i would highly recommend creating a bible study with friends or family ,once u are in the groove ,u wouldn’t want to miss out on bible studies ever .

5. Daily devotional plans- because we get so caught up during the day with our lives and work at times you miss out on Wednesday midweek services or even Sunday I have downloaded a couple of daily devotional plans,that give you a daily message and verse that u can read each morning .i know that as my alarm rings in the morning ,I do my morning prayers,read my bible and my devotional message .this way I know my day is safe guarded by the word I read in the morning and I make the most of it in the morning . 

6. Finding some Christian books on subjects that interest you – in a way you get to read some interesting topics relating to Christianity…you can also learn about so much ,f at the moment I’m reading GrowingTogether As A Couple “10Biblical Essentials For Building A Great Marriage “-(Brian & Cherly Brodersen). I have learnt a lot from reading this book ,including how to grow a Godly marriage ,with different types of essentials 1; ENTRUST 2; ELIMINATE 3;ESTEEM 4;ENCOURAGE . 


 Things Every Christian Girl Needs To Know Before Getting Married 

1. Your fiancé isn’t the answer to your happiness– God is the source of your satisfaction,that’s the most important thing you should engrave in your heart . If you are going to get married ,with the sole idea that your husband is going to be your all, your comforter ,shield etc then what happens wen he fails to fulfill your expectations? 

2. God is truly your only last source of fulfillment – look up to God,have a close relationship with Him ,through prayer ,praise and worship and because He is our creator He provides us with a fulfillment that earthly husband or fiancés can’t provide us with. Before u get married ,have a personal consistent relationship with God that u can take into your marriage that will ultimately give you fulfillment all the time.

3. You won’t magically mature when you get married- we all have our own flaws ,no one is perfect hey ….but thing is no one can ever change overnight. your impatient,selfishness, arrogant and loathing character won’t drastically change because you are married . Slowly work on your flaws ,because those are the exact same things u will struggle with in marriage.i challenge and encourage you to look at your life ,evaluate it now and see what needs to change so that you can better yourself .

4. Being totally independent doesn’t creat marital unity – women are supposed to work and earn a living as much as men do ,even more if they can .personal growth and independence isn’t such a bad idea ,until it leads to a rather competitive relationship than a unified marriage .working together as a team ,and striving to build each other grow will ultimately help your marriage stand strong .its okey to cultivate a selfless ,giving heart whilst in courtship bearing in mind what God says a strong woman is  “a bold and courageous woman for His truth “

What It Means To Be A Leader (series Part 1) 

First and foremost,if u are in a position of being a leader u have the power to definitely influence people .When I first gave my heart to Jesus I was so hungry to spread the word so much that anyone who asked me anything about Christianity I would literally cling on to them.Let me just jump right on it : 

10 Leadership qualities :

1. A leader is not self promoting Matthew 3:13 

Push people towards God word if u have positioned yourself in a leadership post.the moment u want to spread the word,know that it’s not about you anymore ,it’s about the different souls u want to help out by and through ministering the word of God.

2. A leader is obedient to what the Holy Spirit has to say Matthew 4:2

The temptations that Jesus got wen he was in wilderness,He was obedient to what the Holy Spirit within him were saying ,anything that Satan was tempting him with didn’t even phase him .think about the way u are living,are u constantly compromising your faith and religion for money or power or people ? Are u giving so much credit and power to worldly things than u do to God? are u obedient to the Holy Spirit in your life? Therefore if u are a leader ,in whatever area in your life,do u give yourself time to listen to the Holy Spirit within u to help u lead.

3. A leader has a vision with clarity,simplicity and direction 
Jesus knew why he came to this earth and his message was clear so as to reach out to a leader are u speaking in a way that everyone understands you,or are u trying to be above everyone’s head in a way of looking down upon them .Jesus spoke In parables ,earthly stories with a heavenly meaning hence this way a lot of people understood his message ,it was upto them to follow .

4. A leader is a strategic team builder 
Jesus built a team of 12 disciples before he begin his ministering.He chose these people so that they will help him during his time on earth .as a leader have people around u,have a close relationship with them inoder to have a huge outcome or better results in whatever business u are in. 



Trust God During The Process 

I think as Christians it’s so easy to trust God after the process,that is after we make it through the trials and tribulations ,wen we get the results that we wanted.and it’s so much hard to trust him during the process in the middle of the tough times.many a times your faith is tested and wen it is being tested ,it’s tough on you if you are spiritually weak .this leads  to my next point, that it’s very easy to have faith whilst things are going on so well ,than wen nothing is moving for u .its easy to look up to God and praise him for what u have ,than it is easy to praise him wen u have nothing and struggling .Personally I’m still learning how to keep my faith steadfast,and trust God in my most dark times .i think it is a test on how much do I trust God with my life ,with what’s occurring in my life ,with where I am going the Bible says in Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in Jehovah with all thy heart, And lean not upon thine own understanding:“In all thy ways acknowledge him, And he will direct thy paths.”

Yet wen things are going wrong ,and everything is in chaos it’s so hard not to lean on your own understanding,to trust that which you are seeing.I know what the scripture says ,it’s literally engraved in my heart ,but wen those tribulations come it seems like my own understanding overpowers the word of God .im still learning on how to trust in God with all my heart.I’m still struggling in that area .

‭‭As I blog about this my process hasn’t ended ,I’m still learning on how to trust God during this difficult process I’m enduring.i haven’t been in the best place in such a long time ,I’m still going through a lot and I’m trying not be a victim of leaning on my own understanding. Pushing and persevering during a process is hard,I would like to believe that God has a different script for each one of us ,and He knows how and wen to unveil it to us ,and as He does ,your process will be uncovered.looking back over my shoulders ,I can see that my FAITH IN GOD has pushed me during a certain phase or process in my life .


4 ways to keep God in your relationship 


1. Put God first – seeking God at all times .don’t make your partner the pinnacle of your relationship,let a God sit on his throne.

2. Prayer -be comfortable praying to ,for and with each other ..e.g. Our first trip together with our friends ,I wasn’t comfortable praying for our journey ,to the extent that we opted to sing along to a hym before we embarked on our  journey.its something I had never been comfortable with ,praying out loud.not just to my partner but in general .so now I’m making it a policy that we at least try to read out your prayers to each other frequently in times of fasting or wen u are praying for something specifically .its sort of makes us feel comfortable around each other in prayer.
3. Creat boundaries and guidelines- make some routines or regular habits that keep u inlined to Gods word and that are of God,it could be bible study as a couple or with friends .make clear cut boundaries on certain lifestyles that will pull away from the way and life of a Christian.

4. When u stumble don’t hesitate to turn back to God- it’s normal to have arguments in a relationship,to have negative feelings towards each other …..but wen that happens don’t ever hesitate to turn to God. Don’t ever think that there is some dark place in your life that u feel u will never be able to turn back to God…God is always there ready to hear u out and guide you .Thing is, God knows that we are imperfect ,so before u even give your back to him ,He knows you .

The painted African woman

The most beautiful women in the world are like good coffee….black as hell,strong as hope and sweet as love .#AfricanProverb

Is this how the typical African woman is around you, black as hell …wen majority of our beautiful chocolate coated sisters are made to believe being of a lighter skin tone is beautiful.Are we really strong as hope ,yet we stand behind the men who abuse us and our children in the name of love and cultural beliefs..What hope do I bring to the face of my scared and bruised daughter who is exposed to sexual and physical abuse from the one I lay with in bed at night .Chakafukidza Dzimba Matenga,is what adults would tell you after seeking guidance from them .In the name of love ,I give a blind eye to my child and please the perpetrator who so happens to be my husband.
I used to think the typical painted African woman doesn’t exist , till I paid a visit at my grandmother’s homestead in the rural areas. Traditional responsibilities are the only norms these rural women know .Your duty as a wife is to look after the homestead ,fetch firewood ,herd the cattle ,take care of the children ,the elders within your family and feed the family .Only the man can leave the rural areas in search of jobs in the towns. You do not visit, because women are taught to trust their men ,he will come when he can .

It’s not surprising that ,in such a home the girl child will not see the light of education .Having a mother who is under such patriarchal rule ,she can never fight for her girl child to be empowered with textbook education.It doesn’t make it any easy if the family is poor ,so many reasons will be pointed out as to why she doesn’t deserve to go to school .what becomes of that girl child in the end ??the deprivation cycle of poverty will lead the girl child to only looking forward to be married ,to have a husband take care of her .

Incase of infidelity by your husband,u need not disown your husband by leaving him, u have to suck it up and accommodate his behavior.not only does it demean you as a woman ,but it puts you at risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases,all in the name of being the typical African woman.Im saddened at how some women are put through hell because they are just women and have to endure it all .

There is a certain young girl ,deep in the rural areas ,who has never read anything in her whole life .she lives so far from civilization that ,the only thing close to civilization she knows is the 10km away clinic from her homestead.a clinic that she rarely visits because ,her family religion only recognizes traditional medicines for all healthcare casualties. she only knows how to pronounce her name ,but writing it is a myth.her life goals and hopes constitute finding a well groomed husband to marry her .she wishes to have 5children ,preferably boys in order to gain respect from her husband and inlaws . as soon as she reaches her puberty age ,the woman elders of the village gather them up and provide them with on how to be a submissive wife to your husband ,an education on how to take care of your own family ,an education on how to stay faithful to your husband,an education on how to please your husband in bed …isn’t this just sad .what about what I want in my life ,what about my one dreams and ambitions for my life .

Broken Trust 

  • How true is that statement???? 
  • If you don’t trust your partner is there any need of being in that stationary,unproductive relationship at all???  
  • What difference will your relationship be from that of people who are merely flirting,or situationships,or side baes,or friends with benefits,if it has no trust at all ???  
  • What do u mean when you say “I trust you with all my heart”??? 
  • Is trust measured by any visible actions or it’s something you just feel??? 
  • Does trust have limitations???

When you trust someone ,you are literally saying “I have all the confidence in you, I’m safe with and around you ,I relay on you no matter what “ but wen does it all go down the hill in a relationship for people to stop trusting each other .Can it be infidelity,fear ,doubt or lack of communication that turns a beautiful experience into a bitter pill to swallow .im not going to dwell much on what trust is or how you can see it but on what actually destroys trust .

Let’s see : If you are naturally a snoopy individual can you hold back that snooping around tendency when u are in a relationship .To be honest ,there just certain times it’s not necessary to snoop around when your partner is out of sight .if you have a “my phone is my phone and your phone is your phone policy “ then you find yourself snooping in their belongings to go through their phone ,then I feel as though there’s no trust and no relationship to speak of whatsoever .from the beginning,if  are you not comfortable with such a policy ,let your thoughts be heard so u can find common ground at least ,for the sake of progress and healthy relationship. Besides the phone ,u find one going through someone’s wallet, handbag or clothes …what the hell are you looking for honey ???? Instead of snooping why not ask your partner if you feel as though there are certain gaps that won’t add up ..just because so and so have a snooping around relationship doesn’t mean u should do it wen its not even necessary in your own relationship. Nothing productive will come out of snooping around ,in all honesty,u lose and break the trust you share with your partner.  

Keeping secrets is just a deal breaker for anyone . if we are in a relationship I feel there should just be total transparency no inbetweens. I shouldn’t ask for information that must be openly said because that’s what a healthy relationship comprises of ,total honesty and transparency. Keeping secrets,will only lead to one snooping around ,I mean for someone who rarely snoops around ,u are eventually led down that road. how will u hold up a relationship built on secrets, if truth be told ,u lose trust in the long run coz secrets have a way of coming out…some people might be of the view that ,there are good and bad secrets ….woooow really..??  

Here’s my favorite,lack of communication most definitely strips off the trust people have for each other in a relationship.lets learn to communicate about everything and anything , it doesn’t have to be a taboo communicating as a couple .im not talking about calls, messages ,chats and so forth …m talking of communication when it comes to important matters in your lives .communicate about your ambitions,visions,future and how u will implement these. As a couple u need to trust each other in making life changing decisions.I mean if there is a future worth building why not do it together .however,if u hardly know what your partner is on about in their life ….is there any level of trust here??if you decide on doing A,B,C &D without even consulting or getting my 2cents then I feel any normal person will slowly withdraw and not feel included in your life .

We all know what doubt is all about right ? Once u start doubting and questioning everything they say or do ,ur trust in them goes right of the window.  

If these doubts aren’t dealt with prematurely ,eventually they turn into suspicions start noting a certain trend of behavior that in most cases won’t even be there and it will lead to one losing trust over their partner. this is how most relationships just die a slow and heart wrenching breakup ,coz when there is no trust ,there is no love or relationship to dwell on . 


We are OFFICIAL!!!

Yes we can date ,seems a bit old fashioned hey ,but believe you me that’s just how I still prefer it to be .Saying yes,will eliminate a lot of unanswered questions.saying yes prevents future heartbreaks wen one cheats in the name of “I ddnt know we were an item ,u never said that we are “ .When my fiancé was asking me out ,I was a mess ,a mess from my previous relationship,a mess that was of the view that all men are trash ..however, he was a genuine guy ,coming from a not so good/happy relationship himself and we sort of were in the same boat but still I needed a bit of time .Its not you ,but me phrase ,sort of applied in my situation,I never expected to use that ever in my God given life ,although when I did ,I meant every bit of it .We bacame close acquaintances,went to cricket together,movie,lunch dates ,fellowship you name it ,but still I hadn’t said it “yes we are official “ 

How do u know that the person you are dating is officially your one and only .????Well I’m sort of going to lay out what I think should be the highlights of an OFFICIAL relationship.

1. You are only seeing them ,and they are only seeing you

Im sure this happens to most of us,wen you are not attached to anyone ,you tend to flirt a lot with other people who aren’t potential bae/partner /boyfriend /girlfriend ….its only wen you start seeing them more often that u drop out everyone else from your contacts .It starts with late replies to your regular flirting mates to not replying them at all that’s when it hits you wooooow I think this potential bae is the one .The inevitable will occur,it’s only them that you make coffee dates with ,dentist appointments for ,lunch dates with your family with …and what do u know ….ITS OFFICIAL

2. Friends and family refer them as boy/girlfriend  

Think of how many times u have introduced someone to your family and they would still call them by their name .its how you portray your partner to them that will eventually make everyone around you acknowledge them as your boy/girlfriend..that term doesn’t come that easy hey,well if you come from a family like mine ….

3. Meeting important people in your life  

 This has to be the most defining moment of any relationship to be deemed official .Once you start making home visits to uncles,aunts ,brothers and very close friends’s okey to label it official .so here is my story ,I’ve only dated 3guys in my life including my fiancé but i only introduced 2 to my immediate family mean a lot and I’ve always told myself ,if u have never been introduced to them it’s not that deep .no one wants to keep introducing different people to their family or close friends if clearly the relationship isn’t going anywhere …so once u see these visits being talked about and reaching the implementation stage then yes IT IS OFFICIAL  

4. Family secrets  

Well now that’s a strong it’s official highlight to most people in a relationship.there are those deep secrets you hardly share with friends ,that are only within the family circle .we all know those kind of secrets we keep in the closet….secrets that even our parents dare tell us ,secrets we might have heard from older siblings or relatives ,secrets that can destroy family ties ,secrets that are generational and mostly secrets that are just family secrets PERIOD!!But wen you find yourself in that comfort zone ,with no worries of who they might tell ,or whether they are going to judge you for it or not ,it’s safe to say ,it’s an official relationship.

5. Don’t feel guilty for certain behaviors

What a huge wooooow …..wen we official ,I’m not going  to feel guilty for eating from your plate when m done with my portion .im not going to feel guilty for not picking up your phone call when I’m cooking or mixing my cereal .Im certainly not going to feel guilty for telling you to stop using a certain fragrance if I just don’t like it.Im most definitely not going to feel guilty for seeing you in my pjs if you visit in the morning or night.

6. Turndown other people for them  

I’ve experienced this before …..i guess I’m guilty on this one ..but m not going to apologize for it coz in most occasions that I chose my fiancé over other people it was worth it .there are times u just want want to chill and be in the company of that person ,so much that u are willing to sideline everyone else and make time for you 2 only .once such sacrifices start happening frequently,there is no denying it ….it’s official

7. Picture a future together  

When you don’t imagine any future together with them ,then u might as well call it what it is “whirling up time “ . 6months into my relationship we were already thinking of baby names, pet names ,home décor and our first car … we sort of got into the serious phase really fast and a future together was a mutual feeling that turned into pure love. Therefore wen you begin to imagine a future with them in it ,u are definitely heading towards the official statement… 

#please feel free to add on what your We are Official highlights were in your past and current relationships. 


International Women’s Day 2017 #BeBoldForChange

Such a strong theme for this year , BeBoldForChange ,how many of us are bold enough to even change small aspects in our lives ,change of job,appearance ,new environment etc …let’s look at the term #BOLD …. To be bold is when one is not hesitant or fearful in the face of an actual or possible danger, in fact to be courageous and daring .This is what the world is trying to put across to women ,for us to be #BoldForChange ….we know what sort of change we aspire for our kids, families communities, regions ,countries and continents.we know what obstacles are hindering those changes to be enforced ,and why they never reach the level of change ,and yet what are we doing about it ….are we bold enough to make these changes occur nomatter what circumstances.History has a lot of phenomenal women who stood up for their rights ,who were bold enough for change to happen for them and the future generations.Today’s blog will be dedicated to women in my African culture who were and still are BoldForChange ..

1. Funmilayo Ransome Kuti – Woman Activist

  •  Nigerian  
  •  Founder and creatior of The Abeokuta women’s union (AWU) and later Women’s International Democratic Federation (WIDF), organisations and movements that aided Kuti to promote women’s rights to education, employment and to political participation.  
  •  Kuti and the AWU clan went to protest using the slogan no taxation without representation ,against tax imposed on women . They were not equal members of society and were strongly opposed to paying taxes until the injustices were rectified. As the women protested outside the Alake’s house, they sang in Yoruba.

2. Yaa Asantewa – The Commander in Chief

  •  Ghanaian  
  •  She was the military leader of what is known as the ‘Yaa Asantewa War’, which was the last war between the Asante and the British, and during which she became referred to by the British as the ‘Joan D’Arc of Africa’. Although she did not enter combat herself, the troops fought in her name and she gave orders and provided the troops with gun powder. 

3. Winnie Mandela – The President’s Wife

  •  South African  
  •  a South African activist and politician who has held several government positions and headed the African National Congress Women’s League. She is a member of the ANC’s National Executive Committee. 

4. Miriam Makeba – The Mother of Africa

  •  South African  
  •  Another prominently outspoken and visible opponent of South Africa’s apartheid regime was Miriam Makeba, also known as Mama Africa, and the Empress of African song. Makeba was not only involved in radical activity against apartheid but also in the civil rights movement and then black power. In fact, she was married (albeit briefly) to the Black Panther leader Stokely Carmichael, who was her fourth husband out of five. 

5. Ruth Williams, Lady Khama – The Motswanan

  •  Lady Khama was the wife of Botswana’s first president, Sir Seretse Khama. She was born in Blackheath in south-east London and was the daughter of a retired Indian Army officer. Her marriage to the man who would become Botswana’s president was met with disapproval in Botswana, it enraged apartheid South Africa, and embarrassed the British government.  
  •  Lady Khama was an influential, politically active first lady during her husband’s tenure as president. When Seretse Khama died in 1980, many expected that Ruth Khama would return to London. But instead she became president of the country’s Red Cross.  

6. Ama Ata Aidoo – Writer

  •  Ghanaian  
  •  Professor Ama Ata Aidoo, née Christina Ama Aidoo, is a author, poet, playwright, and academic.  
  • Served as a Minister of Education in Ghana under the Jerry Rawlings administration. She currently lives in Ghana.  
  •  In 2000, she established the Mbaasem Foundation to promote and support the work of African women writers.  

7. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie – Writer, feminist

  •  Nigerian  
  •  Born in Nigeria in 1977.  
  •  Author of three critically acclaimed novels: Purple Hibiscus (2003), Half of a Yellow Sun (2006), and Americanah (2013). She also released a short story collection, The Thing around Your Neck in 2009. 
  •  Chimamanda is a feminist and has written and given speeches on various current topics relating to women’s issues in Nigeria and across the Diaspora, including her celebrated TED talks. 



It’s been almost a year since my last blog post and I just figured why not begin with one of my favorite topics ,being that of friends.So growing up I was quite the chatty little birdy and had so many friends ,home friends ,crèche friends ,high school friends ,church friends etc ..Then I grew up and became a bit reserved ,my circle was a bit limited to the number of my fingers in one hand.I don’t really know how i just grew out of it ,friends didn’t just mean that much to me anymore.I just ended up secluding myself from a lot of activities that required a bunch of people to meet up and all .Some of these things u can never explain hey it just happens and well it happened to me .

Childhood friends

I don’t really know if it was me alone ,but my childhood friends were pretty much my cousins,my parents friend’s kids and ofcoz my preschool and primary friends.As for my cousins ,they were the ones who knew just about anything of my life and there was no pretence there whatsoever .They knew everything about me and there was no lying about toys your mom supposedly got you coz they at times lived with us .I would cry if mom ddnt allow me to sleep over at their place or vice versa .We learnt our first hip hop songs together ,knew each other’s secrets “our crush” ,had the same favorite tv show and God forbid had that one movie we knew from start to end “for us it was Saraffina ” . I mean ,cousins were my ultimate IT friends,we were THE SQUAD!!

My preschool friends mmmmm didn’t have so much impact in my life ,there were just there and to be quite frank they just remained as preschool buddies.However, my primary school friends…now those ones are for life .Most of my current friends right now ,are from my primary level of education .Puberty hit us in primary and that for me ,made our friendship a lot special .For instant I had my first period when I was in Grade 7 and all my friends were there for me sharing the confusion ,excitement and joy of entering an unworld phase of every girls life with me . I mean, that was so sacred to  and for me.Primary friends had this special bond ,that still exists even now for me .We parted our ways for our high school but still made time for each other coz mybe primary was just too lit”who knows ” .Some have families now ,others all over the world ,others passed on but still have a special place in our hearts .And guess what ,I even got the love of my life from primary .

College friends 

OH MY GOD …..can I just alt-ctrl-del these people from my life …#LOL#.I can’t even comprehend the amount of craziness these bunch of friends can be in ones life ,it’s so hectic tbh.These kinds of friends can make or break you as an individual if you not careful at all .For most of us,they just remain as college friends ,come to think of it I only have 3 people I talk to from college.Even among these college friends ,they were subdivisions too ….party friends ,church friends ,assignment friends ,just friends and a must friend. These people could never mix at all ,I mean clearly how can my just friend I meet up at functions for drinks ,be my assignment friend …what are the odds that I even share a same module with them …If you ask me ,there’s nothing much I can say about college friends so I’ll pretty much leave it here .

Work friends  

These are the kind of friends you just meet at work and it all stays there ,it’s an 8-5pm sort of an affair .In most cases no one bothers to really be involved outside the work place ,and if you do the relationship doesn’t last at all .Although some end up being buddies for life ,it starts with that office party that will extend to a night out for a few drinks that will eventually lead to a Friday night girls/guys night out together. 

Friends for life 

These are heaven sent ,friends you can go for weeks or months without talking to but still can catch up and be cool together.Such friends don’t need to be asked for help ,they know when to help.Lets all agree that ,such friends are more family than just friends .At most important events of your life they are there ,and you need to ask ,if they know ,they will show up and be there for you .For me , these friends are worth more than a lot of fake buddies .These are the people who are brutally honest with you,not in the name of being mean but pour out every inch of constructive criticism that will build not destroy your esteem.

                      …. WAM 2017….